ADVICE ON BONDAGE PLAY

What are the elements of Bondage Play?

Often referred to as BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Sadomasochism), bondage play can take many forms. The basic situation however is dependant on one partner agreeing and wanting to be submissive to the other. In whichever game play you are in, couples should agree basic limits that they are comfortable with and have a phrase, which either can use to immediately bring games to a close.

The term BDSM sounds very hard however many enjoy what can only be described as soft and sensual. The art of tying up by straps, handcuffs or other devices renders one partner submissive to the other. With a considerate lover the dominant one then uses that dominance to sensually arouse them by various means. Massage, feather tickling, body licking being typical starters, The submissive will often find this more exciting because they are bound up and cannot join in which means all they can do is lie back and enjoy. This can be very different to the norm of consensual foreplay as each partner considers how to react and respond to their partner’s approaches. Most people fail to realise that in the bondage game it is usually the submissive that gains the most.

Some couples find this form of BDSM very satisfying and sometimes one partner is always the submissive and in others roles are switched depending on mood of the day. Others find bondage play can include some elements of punishment or low-level pain. At first many find the idea off-putting, however a fantastic climax of great height is very close to pain. Equally a partner scratched heavily during those final moments will not feel pain only sensual joy. Seeking pain to emulate such sensual feelings is not so weird after all.

The overriding element of bondage play has to be that everything that happens has to be consensual.

What games can you play in a restraint session? There is a very wide selection of restraint available from simple handcuffs to full bondage with rope or chain. It is what follows next that dictates the success of such love play. Once one partner is restrained the name of the game is in the main sensual touch by stroke, touch, tickle, feather stroke, ice cube melt, and the choices are endless. Whatever is chosen there should be excitement for both.

As said previously some find mild pain very exciting so spanking and play whipping can be arousing. Weird? Not at all Pain Play by such methods around the genitals increases the blood flow in this zone and thus an increased sense of arousal.

In this area of game play there are paddles and floggers, which sound horrific, however used carefully, can be very pleasurable.

BDSM love sessions often centre round role-play, they give reason to the actions and both knowing it’s a fantasy feel free to let inhibitions be banished. Doctor and Patient, police officer and criminal, Hooker and customer, the list are only limited by your imagination.

Our final comments are PLAY SAFE or NOT AT ALL.

Never use undue force, only hit safe body areas such as posterior, legs and arms. Not stomach low back and neck. Have an agreed stop word. Do not place restrictions on neck or mouth.

If you do not know your partner well then do not play. Bondage is for persons in a well-established loving relationship where the aim is to give both partners enjoyment. Trust is a vital component of such love play.